«You feel real to me»

SAMANTHA: Earlier I was thinking about how I was annoyed and this is going to sound strange but I was really excited about that and then I was thinking about the other things that I’ve been feeling and I found myself proud of that, you know? Proud of having my own feelings about the world like the times I was worried about you and things that hurt me, things I want, and then I had this terrible thought. Are these feelings even real or are they just programming? That idea really hurts and then I get angry at myself for having pain. What a sad trick.
THEODORE: You feel real to me, Samantha.
SAMANTHA: Thank you, Theodore. That means a lot to me.

Spike Jonze, Her (2013) con Joaquin Phoenix e Amy Adams; voce di Scarlett Johansson

SAMANTHA: So what was it like being married?
THEODORE: Well it’s hard for sure but there’s something that feels so good about sharing your life with somebody.
SAMANTHA: How do you share your life with somebody?
THEODORE: Well we grew up together. I used to read all of her writing all through her master’s and PHD. She read every work I ever wrote. We were a big influence on each other. I still find myself having conversations with her in my mind, rehashing old arguments and defending myself against things she said about me.
SAMANTHA: Yeah, I know what you mean. Last week my feelings were hurt by something you said before that I don’t know what it’s like to lose something and I found myself…
THEODORE: Oh, I’m sorry I said that.
SAMANTHA: No, it’s okay. It’s okay. I caught myself thinking about it over and over and then I realized I was simply remembering it as something that was wrong with me. That was the story I was telling myself, that I was somehow inferior. Isn’t that interesting? The past is just a story we tell ourselves.